Men have been bragging about their man caves for years, claiming it’s a no-girls allowed sanctum. But what a man can do, a woman can do better – case in point, the lady cave.
The lady cave is a peaceful, blissful, comfy, welcoming, slice of your own personalised paradise. In truth, when it comes to setting up your lady cave, there are no rules. You can make it in your own image to suit your needs as you see fit. But just in case you don’t know how to get started, below are 12 essentials you can put in place to get your lady cave started:
- Personal Items
It is crucial that your lady cave holds a variety of your personal items because without such items, you can’t really mark the space as yours. Items unique to you should be strategically placed around the room to signify that anyone entering is entering your abode, your space, and it must be respected as such. Personal items that can help turn your lady cave into your special space include whatever collectible items you may have, your favourite pictures or posters, your favourite albums or magazines, or anything else that makes the space uniquely “YOU”
- A cosy throw blanket
We’ve already established that your lady cave should be your ultimate chill out spot. For that to occur, you need warm cosy comfort and what better way to accomplish this than with a cosy throw blanket that you can snuggle under with a book or a lovely movie and a glass of wine.
- Sweet scented candles
Typical men prefer their man cave to smell like musk but that’s just too choky. Scented candles will help give your lady cave that special ambience that’ll really help you relax. Be sure to select candles of your favourite fragrance so each breath you take will leave you with a satisfied smile on your face. You can use room sprays or perfumes in place of scented candles but the ambience and scent will not be of the same quality as that of the candle and neither will it last as long.
Clutter will ruin the ambience of your woman space so you need to prevent clutter by having a place to store stuff in your cave. Because of the likely limited size of your lady cave, you are eventually going to need more space and you can create space with the aid of shelves and closets. With the extra storage space, you can get items of the floor and table tops and keep you cave looking chic and organised.
- Fun Lighting
Lighting will play a key role in the ambience of your cave. Too much lighting or too little lighting can ruin things so look to invest in a chandelier or other lighting that strikes the right balance in your space. Keep in mind that while you don’t want too much lighting, you want enough to read by without straining your eyes.
- Desk Space
While your lady cave might be a chill out spot, there’s no reason why you can’t also get some work done in there if you want to. A desk space in your lady cave will be especially beneficial if you have a house full of screaming kids. Who knows? You might write an amazing book while seated at your lady cave desk space.
- An expensive bottle of wine
Your lady cave gives you absolute permission to indulge and spoil yourself so keep some of your favourite bottles of wine stored in there. Remember that the whole point of the lady cave is so that you can have a place where you can do whatever you want, so please raise a glass and toast yourself.
- High quality chocolate
We are still indulging so why not have some treats stashed away in the lady cave? Keep some chocolates that you can pair with your wine while watching the perfect movie on the big screen TV in your cave.
- A big screen TV
No doubt the cave is a great place to get some reading done, but for the days you aren’t in the mood to read, you need the big screen TV. There’s lots of TV shows to pick from depending on what you are in the mood for, and Netflix just makes everything easier. Don’t forget to keep the wine and chocolates within reach
- Nook with Plenty of Pillows or Chaise Lounge
You will definitely need a place to recline while in your cave. A nook with comfy and cuddly throw pillows will be ideal but a chaise lounge could also work. And if you really want to stick it to the men, you can get a recliner. It’s not as comfy or lovely as the nook or the chaise lounge, but it’ll do
- Your ‘to be read’ stack
Set aside a bookshelf for the books you intend on spending special time with. And if you are the modern lady with the Kindle, then set aside a place of honour for your Kindle on the mantle or your desk space.
- A Soothing Atmosphere
Last but not least, your lady cave must have a soothing atmosphere. Nothing about the space must leave you feeling tense or uncomfortable. If such exists, then your lady cave still needs some work. The right lighting, wall paint, flowers or potted plants combined with your scented candles will really help make the room peaceful. Using light blue as paint or light blue furniture is known to create a more soothing environment.
Your lady cave can be located in the basement, in the attic, in the shed, in the garage, or even in a repurposed bedroom in the house. Access should be limited to you and people who have your authorisation to enter. Your privacy while in your lady cave should be respected at all times by all in your family. If you cannot enjoy privacy and me-time in your lady cave then the purpose of having such a room has been defeated.
Spice up your lady cave with the aforementioned essentials and add whatever else you feel will make the space really yours.