Breakups are never easy. As heart-breaking as they are, they’re a normal part of life, a phase most people go through at least once in their lives. Some people even go through it many times.
The good thing is; you’re never alone. Many artists were motivated to write the amazing songs we hear today because they were heartbroken. So, no matter what you’re feeling; anger, bitterness, sadness, jealousy or depression – there’s a song out there that perfectly expresses those feelings you think no one else understands.
In each stage of grief, these songs will help to keep you afloat:
1. “You Belong With Me” – Taylor Swift – Denial
This is the point where you’d go “No, we’re okay. We’re going to be okay, everything’s okay.” It’s most likely not going to be okay, because the relationship is over, whether you choose to accept that or not.
This song by Taylor Swift is for that moment when you’re not willing or ready to accept the painful truth, which is that the relationship is indeed over. You really just need to be convinced that the break up was never meant to happen, and that you and your ex were meant to be together forever. Perhaps it was a mistake that he broke up with you. It couldn’t be anything else.
Other songs that perfectly express the feeling of denial is I Don’t Believe You by P!nk, and Ella Eyre’s Comeback – making you feel like everyone comes back eventually.
2. “Kiss My Ass” – K. Michelle – Anger
The first line of the song starts with K. Michelle singing, “I’m tired of your s—.” Not much more to say, right? At the point where you start listening to this song, reality must have set in, and you’re beginning to feel angry towards your ex and maybe yourself. Your ex for putting an end to things and breaking your heart, and you for not being able to see the end coming.
Another song to help you belt away that anger and resentment is Taylor Swift’s “I Knew You Were Trouble”. Also “Sick of You” by Cake; Charli XCX’s “You – Ha Ha Ha”; “So What?” by P!nk; “Rumor Has It” by Adele; “FU” by Miley Cyrus; and Ciara and Nicki Minaj’s “I’m Out”
All these tracks are sure to help express your well-deserved anger. But, don’t hold on to it for too long.
3. “I Want You Back” – Jackson 5 – Bargaining
This is one of the most dangerous parts of the healing process. At this point, you will do anything to get the person back. You begin to make excuses for the other person’s actions and you think of ways you can change yourself and become better.
You begin to analyse all the things you did wrong and could do better the next time around. You’re willing to do anything and everything that will lead to the person taking you back or coming back to you.
These songs perfectly express the feeling of pleading with your ex to give you another chance and try again. Even though you really shouldn’t.
“Change” by Taylor Swift
“Always On My Mind” by Willie Nelson
“Song For The Dumped” by Ben Folds Five
“End of The Road” by Boyz II Men
“I Will Always Love You” by Dolly Parton
4. “Un-break My Heart” – Toni Braxton – Sorrow/Depression
You must have heard and sang this song before, however, what you didn’t know and couldn’t possibly imagine is that some day in the future you’d sing it again and this time from the heart, meaning every single word of it. Yes, no one ever imagines they’d be unlucky enough to go through heartbreak, but it happens and Toni Braxton is here for you.
No one can ever prepare you for the feeling of sadness that comes after a heartbreak, it comes like a tornado and hits you like a ton of bricks.
Un-break my heart is the perfect song to listen to when you’re curled up in a ball, crying your heart out. It helps you remember it all; the good, the best, the bad and the worst. No matter what you’re feeling right now, you can’t deny there were good times, because while you’re angry your mind will deliberately refuse to accept this.
The Weekend’s “Call Out My Name” is another song that helps you relate with someone else who has gone through the same kind of pain. “Stay” by Rihanna featuring singer/songwriter Mikky Ekko is a soulful ballad that expresses just how love can get twisted.
5. “Bleeding Love” – Leona Lewis – Relapse
This is a phase that almost every heartbroken person goes through. It is the point where the pain is so unbearable and you just want to get back together with your ex. Your heart conveniently forgets all the reasons why you shouldn’t attempt to get back together.
Sometimes, you unfortunately have to fall over and over again, until you finally take charge of yourself. This song by Leona Lewis is one of the most relatable songs on how toxic love can keep you blind and unable to see the truth. The truth is that the more you keep hoping things will get better, the worse it gets and the harder it is to get out of it.
Many other artists have faced their own toxic relationships and have their music to prove it:
“Mad Love” by Jojo
“Love On The Brain” by Rihanna
“Love The Way You Lie” by Rihanna
“Ex Factor” by Lauryn Hill
To name a few.
6. “Forget You” – Cee Lo Green – Acceptance
You made it! This is the fun part of it all. You’ve hurt, you’ve cried, you’ve been mad, you’ve even almost gone out begging (whew! dodged that bullet), but now it’s time to put yourself out there once again and show the world that, indeed, Big Girls Don’t Cry – just as Fergie said.
Beyoncé also provides some inspiration and strength to bounce back with “Best Thing I Never Had”. Others include: Meghan Trainor’s “Better When I’m Dancing”; “Woman” by Alyson Stoner; “Too Little Too Late” by Jojo; “Love Myself” by Hailee Steinfeld.
Breakups are never easy, there’s no escaping that. However, they can be managed and handled wisely and carefully, and with these amazing tracks, you’re sure to make a remarkable comeback sooner than expected!